It took me some years to realize just how important our mind is. The mind is single handedly the greatest tool we have in life. Our thoughts can control who we become on this journey to the heavens and there is no doubt in my mind that people often develop into what they think about most throughout the day. Said differently, our mindset creates our reality and turns us into the byproduct of our own thoughts. People that are negative and always down on themselves usually live negative lives. People that are always positive and believe in themselves typically experience growth and positive change in their lives.
So what are we missing?
I believe our innate problem as human beings is we place minimal value, if any, on the things given to us free in life. If you stop and think about it, everything worthwhile in life is actually given to us free at birth. Most people do not realize this because we are surrounded by a consumer centric society. One where we are told how we should look, how we should dress and what we should own in order to “fit in.”
Our mind, body and soul are irreplaceable and often very difficult to fix when broken. They all require work to maintain on a daily basis, yet most of us chase after other things in life that we created. I myself will be the first to admit I used to chase after such things, with no reward or special feeling even after I attained them. It took me some time to realize that the most beautiful things in life given to us at birth, to do with, as we please, are the greatest tools we have.
The journey that I started on almost four years ago has been interesting to say the least. It has led to a major transformation in my way of thinking and a significant period of self-awareness and discovery of who I am as an individual. The better part of the last eighteen months has been spent mostly by myself with the exception of time spent with my two daughters. I stayed away from forming relationships with others, not because I wanted to experience loneliness – that is the part that sucks. I did it because I needed to figure out who I am as an individual and exactly what I want in life. I realized that before this period in my life I wasn’t really sure what direction I was going in. When I look back on it, I was actually going in the direction that society told me I should go in. I learned that living life the way others want you to is no way to live life. Ultimately, I take responsibility for my own actions for life is full of lessons and curveballs. More curveballs and more lessons. Eventually you learn how to hit a curveball.
This period of being by myself and becoming self-aware has been one of the greatest most fulfilling times in my life so far. I have learned that you can’t form successful relationships unless you love the person that you are. I think in life, we are often so concerned about gaining affection from others, we forget to have a relationship with our self first. Working on your well-being and discovering your truths and convictions is essential to living life to the fullest. It is during this period of my life that I realized just how important our mind is.